Some will say that everything we are experiencing in life is a result of the negative or positive energy that we emit. Generally speaking, I believe this is true. However, I also believe that good things can and do happen to the worst negative thinkers, and likewise, bad things occur in the lives of the most happy and positive people as well.
We are here in this world to learn through a variety of experiences and therefore, it would be counterproductive if we did not occasionally experience things opposite from our energy output. The thing that seems to make the biggest difference in life is how or with what kind of energy we will deal with the situations that come along.
The optimistic person will be more grateful for the good things and thereby keep more of those things flowing into their life. When faced with difficulties, this person will get through it quickly and return to the “normal for them” happy good things.
The pessimist will still find something wrong with the best of times and also will quickly get through it to return to the “normal for them” daily doses of sad hardships.
I remember a statement that I made as a child, “I want to make people laugh because when you’re laughing, you can’t feel anger.” Then I wondered why I laugh so little and feel anger so much.
Anger is such a dominant and powerful negative energy, that it often overpowers other emotions as well.
We get physically hurt; we get angry. We get our feelings hurt; we get angry. We don’t feel like feeling sad so we mask it with anger. Jealous? – Anger! Impatient? – Anger! Frustration? – Anger!
I decided to challenge myself to find the humorous side of more daily situations I’m in. That’s a bit funny itself! After all, who feels like laughing when anger starts to flare?
Even when the situation has an obvious funny side, it may be hard to embrace it through the mounting tension. For example, you are in a group setting and you say something that came out different than your meant. Like a pie in your face, everyone else laughs, but you feel insulted or embarrassed. Everyone’s laughing only fuels your anger. Even though you can admit that if it were someone else, you’d probably laugh, too.
Laughing certainly would put out the fire, but anger produces a chemical in the brain that makes you feel strong and in control. That is why it’s addicting. Who doesn’t want to feel like that?
So you can easily recognize in a time like this the humorous side, but making room to feel it emotionally is really hard. Most things that make us feel angry do not have such obvious humor in them, thereby magnifying the difficulty of this challenge.
My first attempt failed horribly — or did it? After asking myself, “So what was funny about this?”, the answer came screaming back at me (with no hesitation). “NOTHING! Dang it!”
Then I chuckled at my own weakness. My rapid response to hold onto the negative became the first obvious funny thing to me in that situation. I figured this is like anything else. With practice, I’ll get better. I believe it’s an ability we all have, a skill that we can and should nurture.
When we roll the die hoping for a six but got one, we still know that the six is just on the other side. There is always another side. We just need to look for it. Maybe, until we get good at finding that other side, we can get by with a little imagination. Go ahead, make up something. Like the next time some aggressive driver cuts you off, just imagine that the pour soul is living out one of their recurring nightmares. They arrived at their destination early only to realize that they’re not fully dressed. They are now racing home to fix the situation before anyone else realizes it and hoping all along that the highway patrol doesn’t pull them over and say, “Would you please step out of the car?”
My disclaimer is that not everything should be handled with humor. I’m sure you can think of enough situations where humor would be totally disrespectful and/or inappropriate. But where anger is concerned, humor is a good extinguisher and worth the effort to learn how to use it!
Seriously but not really,