Have you ever had a day when you were so busy with this and that, and when lunchtime rolled around you realized you hadn’t had breakfast? Or for those over 50 been too busy to color your hair so your grandchild says, “Why do you have white hairs coming on your head?” (Of course, maybe you like your changing hair color and that’s great!)

I’m one of those people who likes to eat 5 to 6 small meals a day because it keeps my energy up, keeps my blood sugars level, and helps me not be so grouchy to others or stressed during a trying moment. Well, today it was morning snack time, but I was ready to work on the computer.

Am I the only one in the world who has sensitive technology? My computer has to be unplugged and reset once or twice before it will boot up, usually only once. I’ve also noticed if it’s too cold in the winter from the heat being turned down at night that my computer might not turn on, you know, just rebelling at the cooler temperatures.

As I prepared my yummy snack of leftover turkey, cranberry sauce and a homemade roll, I tried to turn that computer on. After two tries I gave up and decided my angels were telling me to relax and enjoy that morning snack without having work on my mind.

A big part of self-care is taking breaks both physically and mentally. Although I do enjoy my online work, sometimes I need a brain break. And sometimes I need food for my body and even food for my soul!

And what does this have to do with relationships? When you take time to nourish your body, exercise, take a nap, etc. you have more vitality and happy chemicals running through your body. It may be important to women to make sure your gray hair roots don’t grow out more than a half an inch, or enjoy a manicure, or put on your makeup before greeting the world. Men may prefer watching that sports game, making sure your hair is trimmed before it becomes unruly or just taking time out to read a good book.

This “downtime” should not be neglected. You are worthy and deserving to care for yourself in ways that nourish you. When we get neglected, it’s much harder to be caring and loving towards others. You may have heard the old saying that you can’t draw water from an empty well. Likewise, you can’t draw love and energy from a depleted person including yourself!

Sometimes even with the best intentions, our spouse or other family members can’t give us all the care we may need – especially self-care. When it comes to filling your own cup so you have awesome things to give to others, remember this is a true principle and fill that cup in whatever ways are best for you by scheduling time in your daily, weekly and monthly calendar!

BONUS TIP: If you are one who works on the computer for several hours at a time or just hanging out on social media, the 20/20/20 rule is important to know. To reduce eye strain, brain fog and tense shoulder and neck muscles, take a 20 second break every 20 minutes to focus on objects 20 feet away. When I was working on my book several years ago, my muscle therapist taught me this rule because I was having lots of neck and shoulder problems. Try it! It’s a great way to practice self-care!