Why would I let my 13-year-old record me doing a hip hop dance in my pajamas and then post it on YouTube and Facebook? Am I crazy, insane or do I just like to embarrass myself? When I think a little deeper, I think it’s because I love myself. I have confidence in myself and realize that if other people want to point fingers, judge me or criticize me, that’s their choice. I also realize that I am free to be me, and I have plenty of goodness to give to others.

When it comes to relationships, especially our marriage relationship, the more we love ourselves, the better and more deeply we are going others. As we treat ourselves with love and respect, it’s the ultimate practice for how to treat others, and sometimes that is a challenge when we tend to beat ourselves up for our weaknesses and shortcomings.

Here’s a great excerpt with fantastic tips on how to love yourself better from Jennifer’s bestselling book “12 Weeks to Greater Peace, Joy and Love in Your Family.”

“Self-love is a crowning sense of self-worth . . . It is what Greeks called reverence for the self. It is an abiding faith in yourself. It comes through self-discovery, self-discipline, self-forgiveness and self-acceptance. It produces self-reliance, self-confidence, and an inner security, calm as the night.”

—Robert H. Schuller, Self-Love

Are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you really like yourself? Or, even better, do you love yourself? If you struggle with these things, here is a list of empowering ways to help.


10 Great Ways to Love Yourself

  1. Hang around positive people who treat you with respect and compliment you often.
  2. Treat yourself like your own best friend! Don’t criticize yourself or be too hard on yourself. Remember, we all learn from our mistakes. Forgiving ourselves makes it easier to forgive others.
  3. Don’t compare yourself to others. There will always be those who have more or have less. Comparing yourself to others only makes you or others seem less important than the divine, magnificent beings you truly are.
  4. Give yourself a heartfelt hug! It sounds a little crazy, but I always enjoy it when my gym instructor says, “Give yourself a sweaty hug!” You can raise the same personal vibration in the loving emotion of a sincere self-hug as you can hugging someone else you deeply care about.
  5. Make a list of your best characteristics, talents, skills, and physical traits. Look at it often.
  6. Make a ritual of setting aside twenty to thirty minutes EVERY day doing something you love. It could be reading, talking with a friend, listening to music, working out, soaking in a hot bathtub, a favorite hobby, or just relaxing with a tasty snack.
  7. Occasionally treat yourself—without breaking the bank, as that can be stressful! Have a massage, go out to dinner (even if it’s at a fast-food restaurant), buy a stylish new outfit, take a mini vacation for a day or two, or just buy the expensive ice cream that you like!
  8. Don’t be afraid to change jobs or a career that you’re not enjoying. Be patient with the time it takes to make that happen.
  9. Take some time to strengthen your spirituality, whatever that means to you. It might mean attending religious Sunday services. It might mean going outside and getting in touch with nature or taking time for worthwhile meditation. Maybe it’s mending broken relationships. True spirituality is becoming the best person you can be.
  10. Take good care of yourself, because usually no one else will unless you are a child still living at home. Make sure you are getting adequate rest and exercise; proper nutrition and hydration; chiropractic, dental, or medical care; and time to recharge your batteries. You’ll love yourself more and have more to give to others.

Now go look in the mirror and say, “I love you! You are magnificent! You are wonderful!” If you can’t say that, try, “I like myself! I am a great friend to myself!” If you can’t say that, you know you’ve got some work to do!

Oh, did you want to see that silly 30-second hip hop dance? Here you go: