“I know I am a child of God – a daughter of God – but I don’t feel like I am sometimes,” said a struggling client. She was trying to put into words what many of us have felt in our lives. 

Although we may have grown up in a Christian church and been taught that we are God’s children, sometimes we don’t believe it where it matters most – in our hearts! Even if you don’t struggle with self-identity, you probably know someone who may be near and dear to you that does.

Identity is a big deal! In fact, in 2017 identity theft cost Americans over $540 million out of pocket expenses, and it’s estimated that there is a new victim of identity theft every 2 seconds.

Identity theft can be very painful! However, not knowing your divine identity or who you truly are at the core can be just as painful.

Without having a firm conviction in your heart of who you are and whose you are (you belong to a loving Father in Heaven and were bought with the price of his son), you may struggle with any of the following:

  • You feel like you are drifting and do not know your mission, purpose, and divine true self
  • You meander through your day without direction and feel frustrated for lack of progress you make each day
  • You don’t feel confident in working towards and achieving worthwhile goals or just feel like a failure when you try
  • Your relationships suffer with yourself, God, or others
  • You want to make a difference in life but don’t know how

There are many reasons a person may not feel connected to their true, divine, authentic self. Let’s just talk about one of the most common reasons here.

Negative self-talk keeps you stuck

Many people aren’t aware of their thoughts or at least may be aware of only a few of them. We go about our day to day lives and never check in with what is playing on the stage of our mind. Just like movie actors, our thoughts play a big role in affecting our feelings and choices each day. Yet we may not acknowledge them. 

One of the big problems with not paying attention to our thoughts is that we become a product of those thoughts for good or bad. This is something we can be aware of on a conscious level, and that’s great news!

If we have thoughts like: 

  • I will never be able to do that.
  • I am not good enough.
  • I can’t change. It’s too hard.
  • I’m so worthless. 
  • Nobody cares about me.

then we are sending out beliefs, energy and actions that are going to cause us to struggle in all areas of our lives. Which, by the way, Satan loves to see! He rejoices in seeing us suffer and drown in misery. 

Here’s a little secret: Negative self-talk is a myth. Lucifer is the one who originally planted those negative thoughts into our minds. Yes, we may come to accept them as truths, but they originated from the dark side. Don’t believe me? Here’s one simple question to ponder:


Would God ever say those things to you or put those kinds of thoughts into your mind?

How to discover your true, divine self


There are many principles and activities that can help you learn your true identity. President Russell M. Nelson gave a beautiful talk called BECOMING TRUE MILLENIALS at a Worldwide Devotional for Young Adults on January 10, 2016 at Brigham Young University–Hawaii.

His wise words give us some great advice on how to learn who you really are.

“Therefore, my first recommendation is to learn for yourselves who you really are. Ask your Heavenly Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, how He feels about you and your mission here on earth. If you ask with real intent, over time the Spirit will whisper the life-changing truth to you. Record those impressions and review them often, and follow through with exactness.

I promise you that when you begin to catch even a glimpse of how your Heavenly Father sees you and what He is counting on you to do for Him, your life will never be the same!”

By Small and Simple Things

I love the scripture found in Alma 37:6, “…that by small and simple things are great things brought to pass; and small means in many instances doth confound the wise.” 

If you struggle to find your true identity and divine self or simply forget once in a while, this simple activity will help you remember who you truly are. Take a notebook, journal, or even open up a document on your computer and write 10 positive things about yourself. start with the words “I am.” Try to use more character traits rather than roles such as mother, father, teacher, friend, etc.

Here are some examples:

  • I am kind
  • I am patient
  • I am thrifty
  • I am forgiving
  • I am musical
  • I am industrious
  • I am a good listener

If you struggle to think of at least 10, consider how loved ones, close friends, or your Father in Heaven see you.

Would you like more ways to develop and discover The True Divine You or help a loved one to do so? Check out this online mini-course to help you find strength, purpose and joy in your identity.

The Radio Trick

If you want to dig a little deeper into how Satan influences your thoughts and the idea that negative self-talk is a myth, check out this article by Maurice W. Harker, LPC. The Radio Trick